There is no sex life cus I'm too scared to have it

Visitor's Question from a 31-40 year old Female
I am writing to you guys concerning my sex life. Well there is no sex life cus I'm too scared to have it. I'm nearly 23 years old and I have been with my boyfriend for a very long time now. We have waited cus I was never ready, and scared. I can finger myself all the time, so that calmed me down and I wasnt as scared. Its the pain and bleeding that scares me. I bought a vibrator so that I can practice on that instead of him, cus it just becomes disappointing when we end up not being able to do it. I practice with my vibrator, but as soon as it starts going inside, I feel a sharp pain and get scared and cant get myself to go any further. Am I going to go through alot of pain when I continue putting him or the vibrator inside me?? Im getting worried, because I really want to have sex, and I know Im ready, but I'm being a baby and freaking myself out. I know this is not proffesional help, but please try to give me accurate advice as much as your ability and knowledge on first time sex. Thank you very much for you time. Advice
At your age, the best thing to do is to go to a gynecologist and find out whether your hymen is so tough that it needs to be surgically removed. Or even easier, just ask the gynecologist to deal with the hymen.

If you are unwilling to go to a gynecologist then you should use the vibrator with a lot of determination to break the hymen.

My advice is to see a gynecologist.

Good luck! George

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