I'm completely against disrespecting woman
Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Male
hey, im a little confused about some things with my girlfriend. we have almost been going out for a year now and we've done alot of the basics i guess you could say. holding hands, hugging, kissing, making out, ect. but she is extremely, well, not really willing to do much of anything else. i mean, if she doesnt want to do it then i respect that and wont force her to do anything she doesnt want to do or just do anything she doesnt want me to do but awhile back we were talking on the phone and she brought up her friend who had done some mutual masterbation with her X. i jokingly said "oh too bad we cant do that. im just kidding i know you dont want to do anything like that." then she said "well, i dont know..." i just said "what?" and she kinda just ignored it by saying "eh" and didnt really give me a straight answer and i didnt really want to force one out of her. that was like a month ago. but now, lately she has been more leaniant towards certain things. nothing to serious though. and every now and then she acts like she doesnt want me to do it but i know that in her head she doesnt really care she just knows that its wrong and thinks that shes degradeing herself. now if she says that then i wont do it and every time i tell her that (what i just said) she just kinda shrugs her shoulders or says in a quiet voice "i know...".
now, im not the kind of guy who thinks with his crotch first infact im completely against disrespecting woman. if she doesnt want me to do somthing then i wont no matter what it is even if we've been doing it for awhile, but it does start to get kind of anoying. id just like to hear your take on this and if there is any advice to give that would be great. thanks alot.
Be sure to followup quickly when she gives you hints about things.
Like when she mentioned mutual masturbation. You can tell her that you would like to try it and ask her if she would like to also and she might say yes.
The more experience you two get the more open she will be.
Good luck! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at FlirtingClass.com
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