How do I let him know
Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Female
I'm 18, and still a virgin. It's not really by choice. I mean in my mind I want to have sex bad, sometimes I feel it in my body you know. I've never had a boyfriend, never kissed a guy, but I want to so bad. I'm afraid though of doing it wrong, and guys not liking it. I'm a girl of bigger stature so I'm a little self-confident. I like a guy who's 28 sometimes it seems like he likes me, but I don't know. Anyways I wanna suck his "male organ" but I've never done it and I don't know how to ask him. When people touch me I have a tendency to flinch or coil up, it's reflex, which is why I can't have sex though I want to. But how do I let him know that I want to pleasure him without looking or sound stupid or inexperienced. I've watched porn so I've seen how it's done, but I don't know I just need some form of advice
The usual advice is to get to know the other person very well and gradually work your way up the physical romance ladder. And, you can try it.
However, in your case, at you age, level of experience, desire and the age of your male interest I would advise a more direct approach. Tell him that you are inexperienced and you would like for him to help get some. He will understand and help you. You won't need to tell him what you want to do, he will help you get to that point.
Good luck! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at FlirtingClass.com