he hasn't been able to come any of the times we've had sex
Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Female
My boyfriend and I have been dating almost 2 years now and decided to have sex for the first time (for both of us) a couple weeks ago. The first time it hurt pretty bad when he was trying to get inside me, and then afterwards I bled quite a bit, which I am positive is from my hymen. The sex wasn't really enjoyable for me, but we tried again and have had sex 3 times since we first tried. It hurts less and less and I only bled a tiny bit the other two times (still from my hymen I was assuming, I could see where the blood was coming from right outside my vagina), but it still isn't that enjoyable for me. It doesn't feel very good when I am on top and it seems like what drives him crazy is the least comfortable for me. The last time we did it, I began to enjoy it towards the end, and I think that my enjoying it will just be something that will get better with time. There is also another problem, he hasn't been able to come any of the times we've had sex and he says it's because of the kind of condom. We have use the Trojan-Enz kind with the spermicidal lubricant. Are they too thick or something? What kind of condom would you suggest? Thankyou so much for your time.
Everything sounds normal.
Even his inability to come. He is just nervous and once you start enjoying it, he will relax and be able to come.
Have you ever masturbated him until he came? If not, try doing that so he feels comfortable coming near you.
-- from George
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