I'm too scared and too panicky
Visitor's Question from a 13-20 year old Female
I'm a fifteen-year-old girl and by boyfriend will be seventeen in September.
My boyfriend touches me and fingers me and I really enjoy what he does for me. Our make-out sessions are way awesome, whether it is in the movies or in the back of his parents' car. What I'm worried about is that I'm not giving enough back to him.
While we make out, he'd take my hand and place it just under his belt buckle. I don't know why, but I instantly withdraw. In the end, he looks rather disappointed. This makes me feel real yucky. I so much want to touch him, but everytime I get the chance, I withdraw.
Any help for this kind of thing?
Also, now the other day we went to his house after the movies. We were sitting is his room with the door closed, yet still slightly open. He started kissing me and slowly laid me down on his bed. The feeling was awesome, but I was so scared of someone walking in on us. I was so panicky.
Is there any way to get rid of the feeling?
Thanks for your help
Tell him you want to put your hand ON his belt buckle until you get used to having your hand down there. Tell him you will touch him once you get over your fear.
As far as lying on his bed, I don't blame you for feeling panicky, don't do it anymore unless you feel comfortable one day.
Good luck! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at FlirtingClass.com