Arousal leading to sex?
Visitor's Question from a 31-40 year old Male
My girlfriend and I have been dating for a while now and live together as well. I love you so much. However about sex...humm do I remember what that is?? Well I was wondering if you could help me out with a few pointers. My girlfriend has very sensitive skin so rubbing the tender spots (dry without lubricant) even for a short period of time to be can be painful for her. She can become raw quickly. Lubricants (you buy in the store) are out of the questions because she can't stand anything even remotely sticky on her no matter where it is. Now here is the personal part for me. When I reach down on her to help with arousal before sex for her, it is hard for me to get her moisten up if you know what I mean. If I can't get her moisten she then becomes very raw very quick. So now that I have just caused her pain, now there is a possibility for a UTI for her and I feel like crap because I have trouble getting it right the first time. So sex usually doesn't happen for us, but other than that everything else is fantastic. So what do you recommend?
The first thing that comes to mind is oral stimulation.
This should not seem sticky to her and should moisten her well.
If she objects to this, then my advice is to go to a sex therapist and get some advice. Your g/f may have a psychological adversion to sex.
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at FlirtingClass.com